Welcome back to *Am I Too Loud?!* where today we’re discussing a disease many of us had in our 20s: being *way too nice* and calling it “having a good heart” 😭💀 In this episode, I’m unpacking the *nice girl trap,* people-pleasing, saying yes when I wanted to say *absolutely hell no,* overexplaining myself when I didn’t need to, and why being “easygoing” had me stressed, resentful, and lowkey disappearing. We’re getting into how this shows up in friendships, dating, work, and family, the guilt that hits after you finally set a boundary, and how to stop abandoning yourself just to be liked. If you’ve ever been the “chill” one but secretly wanted to scream, *PODD FAM*… this is your episode. Let’s heal, laugh, and learn how to say *NO* as a *FULL SENTENCE* 💋🎙️
00:00 AM I TOO LOUD?!
03:20 Growing Up as a People Pleaser
08:00 The Cost of Being Too Nice
15:00 Nice vs Kind vs People Pleasing
16:40 Learning to Say No
19:00 It's Okay to Disappoint People
21:40 People Pleasing in Friendships
27:10 Dating & The Cool Girl Trap
36:00 Work Boundaries & Career Ambitions
38:20 Family Dynamics & Setting Limits
42:00 Reddit Stories & Real Talk
55:00 Sexual Boundaries & Pleasure
1:00:20 Final Thoughts - Choose Yourself
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