The Cost of Being “Too Nice” in Your 20s | AITL?! EP 53
Welcome back to Am I Too Loud?! where today we’re discussing a disease many of us had in our 20s: being way too nice and calling it “having a good heart” 😭💀 In this episode, I’m unpacking the nice girl trap, people-pleasing, saying yes when I wanted to say absolutely hell no, overexplaining myself when I didn’t need to, and why being “easygoing” had me stressed, resentful, and lowkey disappearing. We’re getting into how this shows up in friendships, dating, work, and family, the guilt that hits after you finally set a boundary, and how to stop abandoning yourself just to be liked. If you’ve ever been the “chill” one but secretly wanted to scream, PODD FAM… this is your episode. Let’s heal, laugh, and learn how to say NO as a FULL SENTENCE 💋🎙️
00:00 Welcome & Setting Intentions for 2026
03:20 Growing Up as a People Pleaser
09:43 The College Hair Appointment Wake-Up Call
11:03 People Pleasing in Dating & Relationships
15:57 The Canon Camera Story & Fear-Based Giving
19:00 It's Okay to Disappoint People
19:23 Five Signs You're People Pleasing, Not Just Nice
21:36 People Pleasing in Friendships
23:42 Being Perceived as Difficult as a Black Woman
38:23 Setting Boundaries with Family
42:51 Reddit Stories: People Pleasing in Real Life
55:08 Sexual Assault, Consent & People Pleasing in Intimacy
1:00:32 Final Thoughts: Choose Yourself First
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