March 25, 2026

LET'S TALK ABOUT WHY I DON'T WANT KIDS... | AITL?! EP 55

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Show Notes

PODD FAM 💚, Today on Am I Too LOUD?, I’m opening up about one of the most personal and painful experiences of my life. In this solo episode, I’m talking honestly about pregnancy loss, reproductive choice, and what it means to live in a woman’s body in a world that always seems to have an opinion about it, the kind of thing we don’t usually say out loud, but probably should.

I share my story, how it affected me mentally, how it changed the way I think about motherhood, and why my relationship to having children is not what it used to be. I also talk about the emotional weight of miscarriage and abortion, the silence and shame so many women are taught to carry, and why I believe women should always have a say over their own bodies.

This episode is tender, honest, and deeply personal. But it’s also bigger than me. It’s about grief, choice, womanhood, and the reality that too many women across the world are still fighting to be trusted with their own lives.

RESOURCES

United States: AbortionFinder has a verified directory of abortion providers and assistance resources; Planned Parenthood provides abortion information and services; All-Options runs a judgment-free Talkline at 1-888-493-0092; the 988 Lifeline offers free confidential crisis support; and March of Dimes has miscarriage, loss, and grief support resources.

United Kingdom: The NHS has official abortion guidance; BPAS provides confidential abortion care in the UK; the Miscarriage Association offers pregnancy loss information and support; and Sands supports people affected by pregnancy and baby loss.

Canada: The Government of Canada says abortion is a legal, regulated medical procedure; Action Canada’s Access Line offers confidential sexual and reproductive health support and referrals, including abortion; and PAIL Network provides pregnancy and infant loss support through Sunnybrook.

Nigeria: Ipas Nigeria works to expand access to reproductive health services and postabortion care, and ARFH is a Nigerian nonprofit focused on sexual and reproductive health and underserved communities.

Kenya: FHOK provides sexual and reproductive health services in Kenya, and KMET provides reproductive health education and maternal health services.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Content Warning & Women's History Month
00:27 Why This Episode Terrifies Me
04:18 Growing Up Wanting Nine Kids
06:42 Finding Out I Was Pregnant
09:46 The Weight of Choice
13:29 The Miscarriage
14:47 The Physical Pain & Medical Abortion
17:30 Grief, Trauma & Erasing Memories
19:44 Why I Don't Want Kids Anymore
21:06 Why Women MUST Have Choice
23:24 The Reality of Unsafe Abortions
27:28 Breaking the Shame & Silence
28:53 I Am Pro-Choice & So Should You
32:01 Final Thoughts & Resources