PART 2!!! In today’s episode, Ismatou (On Our Terms) and Sofi (Am I Too Loud?!) sat down to finish the conversation from last week on sex, silence, shame, and everything Black Muslim women were never supposed to say out loud. In this part 2, we dive into relationships, dating and so much more.
From our first boyfriends, to halal dating and to arranged marriages? They're unpacking first crushes, living authentically, dating experiences and what it means to truly reclaim your choice as a woman.
This is the finale Part 2 of a two-part series.
00:00 Welcome to the Crossover: Dating as Black Muslim Women
03:40 First Crushes & Early Dating Experiences
09:35 Rejection, Unrequited Love & Learning Patterns
11:47 Dating After Trauma & Reclaiming Choice
15:50 Age Gaps, Coercion & Things That Happened To Us
20:26 Sexual Assault, FGM & The Consequences of Choice Being Taken
23:58 Marital Rape, Blue Balls & The Double Standard
36:00 Religion, Queerness & What the Texts Actually Say
41:57 Sinners Judging Sinners & Living Authentically
52:22 Fear of Family Reaction & What We're Really Risking
1:01:46 Boundaries, Intentionality & Choosing Yourself Always
Content note: This episode includes discussions of sexual assault, FGM, and trauma. Listener discretion is advised.
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