MY DECEMBER WAS CRAZY X DETTY | EP 13

Welcome to Amai Tulao, the podcast. Hi, this is Sophie aka the Audity, the podcast to host of Amai Tulao, the podcast with Sophie aka the Audity. And this message is for Alex Cooper of the Unwell Network and the team at the Unwell Network. My name is Sophie, I'm a Nigerian immigrant from Lagos, Nigeria, who immigrated to New York at 15 years old in 2014 after a sexual assault incident at my university. I escaped my life there to come to America to chase my dreams. And I have spent the last 10 years in America chasing my dreams and having the best time doing it. I celebrate life, love, friendship. I don't know if it's the Audity because I just do whatever the f I want, I share whatever the f I want. And this podcast is my dream and to be a part of the Unwell Network is my dream. So this is me shooting my shot, if you're watching this, hi, I would love to be a part of the Unwell Network. It has to be now, I can work really, really hard to get there, but I think that is a fun fit for me in my audience. And I want to be that creator, especially from an African background who's able to show you all the fun things about what being the Audity and what being really, really f loud looks like. Setting love, that's it, happy new year, 2025, I hope you can see this. So you'll attack the Unwell Network and attack Alex Cooper and call her daddy in the comments if you want to. You never know where this is going to go and with that being said, let's start my first episode of 2025. Hey! Sorry, that was really loud, wasn't it? Was it loud? No, it was good. Oh f you guys, happy new year? I'm literally nervous. I was just talking to Donald about this. This is my first episode of 2025. The fact that I have a podcast that I'm serious enough that I'm having to record is insane. You're probably wondering, so if you write a shade, see, look at this. And let's go back from Ghana. My lashes aren't done, my brows aren't done. I use my armpit stank, I'm not sure today. I'm not sure I'm like 27 hours. I am packing up to go on a trip in my tart. We're going to a private island in my tart cosmetics again this year. We did that last year. That podcast episode is going to be coming out next week. I'm going to give you all all the tea of that. So essentially like, it's a lot going on with me right now and I'm just frazzled. I'm very frazzled. So I am like, I just, this is me, right? We're going to take this episode because this is the first episode of the year. And this is how I'm looking. But this does not mean that I am like feeling frazzled in life. It just means that like I'm really excited, but also just taking you one day at the time. Welcome to Amai Tula at the podcast with Sophie aka the Audity. This is our first episode of 2025. If you're watching this after seeing a bunch of our uploads over the holiday season and you're like, oh my god, I love this girl. I love the podcast and you're a new listener. Wagwan! Wagwan, my love. Wagwan, welcome to the party. Welcome to the odd fam. I am so glad you're here. If you're an OG listener of the podcast and you stuck with us from when we launched in October till now, I love you so much. It's been like four months. This is episode 13. October, November, December, January. Four fing months. It feels like forever. This is just episode 13 of the podcast. And we're doing so well, you guys. Like, I feel like I'm talking better. I feel like I'm more excited. I feel like me and Donald have a report. We're going to introduce Donald again this year. I just feel like I'm good and I'm excited. And there's so much to store for us this year in the podcast. And I'm just really, really proud of myself. With that being said, this episode is about like a lot of things. But first, hi, Donald. Did you miss me? Because I miss you. Okay. Done, done. Hi, baby. How are you? Good. Hey, we're calling you, baby. It's disgusting. I know I was so sorry. I didn't know why I said that. That was a bit strange. It was good to express yourself. How are you feeling? Did you miss me? Did you miss me? Like, did. Yeah. Like, did you miss me? Just say, I wouldn't hear it. I think the chaos. You meant, wow. Okay. That's not a good part. Yeah. Okay. I realize that my life is actually very chill. Yeah, life is very boring. I wouldn't use the word boring. I wouldn't use word boring. I would use word boring. I would use word boring. Donald, what was the most exciting thing you did hope for the holidays? Be very honest with me. The most exciting. If you tell me something about beating a running mark or setting a goal on notion, I sort of got to kick you. I crossed a thousand subscribers. That's still work. That's not work. That's work. Content is life. No, it's not. See what I mean? What? Donald, that's still boring. That's not boring. What did you cook? Was it cooked like a nasty, dirty, thick meal that made you feel bloated and made you sh*? Was it like a healthy, fun meal? It was very healthy meal. Off. This is what I mean. See what I mean? Your life is very like- And I eat ice cream. Okay. See what I mean? It's a regular Tuesday for some of us. Like, you celebrated your eating ice cream as a illustrate. Ooh, I spent Christmas alone. I'm not Christmas in New Year's. You're not helping your case. I am. Until you're not. Okay. Okay. Let's just say- You have a very boring life. And that's what I'm here. But exactly. Yes. I realized it's like- The chaos in my life is the truth to you. You know what's crazy? I feel like everybody who knows me says I'm trouble and chaos. I wouldn't use trouble, though. No. It's because we're knowing a romantic relationship. That's true. I feel like- That's actually me. I think that's what it is. Because if you were in a romantic relationship, you would say trouble. Because like, the people who are in romantic relationship or sexual relationships with me, call me, say I'm trouble something. Because like, then I'm like a bit more of like a baby to them. Like, I don't think I'm a baby to you. Right? Like, I'm not going to whine if I want something. But like, if I like you or like someone, or like you're a friend to me in that way, I'm very much like a, um, baby. I want this. Yeah. And that could be annoying. Like, I could pick a fight with you for no reason, just to spice things up. Like, I'm very toxic like that. As long as you know. I do. I'm very self-aware. Like, that's the one thing about me. Like, I'm, you know, I'm very self-aware. I grew up a lot. Um, I like, I'm very introspective. Is that what it- Yeah. Introspective is the word. So yeah, I'm just a great person overall. Okay. So my dissimilar to you. Okay. How's your- Because like, you left us. I left you guys. I'm so sorry. I feel like if you watched the episodes and like, if you kept up on social media, I didn't disappear fully. Right. Because we posted shorts. We posted like TikToks. Like, we didn't make sure we like filmed and experimented on like posting content for you guys. Well, for the most part, like December 18, I was out of New York. Right. Like, I- I ran away. I left New York. I went to Acra Ghana, which is in West Africa, which is in the African continent. And I spent about three plus weeks in Acra. Which is crazy. It was crazy. Really? Three plus weeks in Acra. And I went there for something called Dead Sea December. If you're listening to this, and you don't know what Dead Sea December is, it's basically the period in December towards like early January where folks, a ton of us just go home to the continent. Or they just go home in terms of like wherever you're from. So like, if you're Nigerian, you go back home to Nigeria. Or you visit some West African mostly country. Or South Africa is becoming a huge part of like Dead Sea December. And it's just like a month full of events. Like clubs, parties, restaurants. Like TikTok was a buzz. Like if you search the hashtag Dead Sea December on TikTok, if it's not banned, we'll talk about that in a bit too. It was just a fun time. And so typically, because I'm Nigerian, if you didn't know that, yeah, I am. I would usually go to Nigeria for Dead Sea December. But this is my first time going to Ghana. Because I feel like, this is then I'm supposed to be raunchy and crazy and fun. And my family lives in Nigeria. So I don't want to be waking up at 2 a.m. I don't want to be in the club at 2 a.m. And my mom is like, where are you? Come back home because she lives like she's in Nigeria. I want it fun and like crazy. So I went to Ghana instead. And I had the time of my fing life. I had the time of my life. We know what we saw. Yeah. If you follow on TikTok, follow me everywhere at the oddity. I had a good time. So she's Snapchat. Snapchat saw almost all of it. Like I don't think like, I have rested since I like left. It's been crazy. That's like I also don't have like a good picture. Because I don't use Snapchat. Yeah. So you don't really know. I don't just call me for work purpose. That's why I said your life is boring. Because every time I saw a face out of it, I was like, what do you want? Because like I knew it was like a responsibility that I needed to do. When all I wanted to do was like. And see to your face too. And okay. So I still want to like just say this now, because it was on the podcast that we made the deal in the first place. I also drank you guys. Let's just put it out there. If you don't know, please do it for us. And let's let the record show. Okay. Then I'm disappointed. I wish there was like a. But let me. Let me. Let me. Okay. Before you start making me feel bad about this. Okay. For context, October 28th, we talked about me not drinking anymore when we recorded a podcast episode, where I talked about like me. Recorded an episode. Or the podcast where we talked about drinking and sobriety, with alcohol. And I want to say that you guys don't know is the kind of person in my life who tends to like push his opinions of me on me. And I just do like it. Okay. So what happened was we had the episode goes, there are no things I have a problem with alcohol, which is neither here or there. That's the statement, right? And I was like, yeah, alcohol is not good for you. This is at the basis of everything in life. I know that as a fact. Like this result just came out that said, alcohol causes cancer. Like if the more you drink, we seen it. And you sent that to me. Oh, I did. Oh shit. You sent it to me. You sent it to me. So I sent, you know, I mean, like I know it's not good for me. I'm also like, I know. So I did this episode where I talked about like alcohol and whatever, whatever. And during the episode, I don't know what it says. So why don't you not drink? And I said, you know what? That's true. I'm not going to drink for a whole year. Because I feel like what's the point? So that was what happened. So from October to December 18, I did not drink. I didn't even care about drinking. Like I was just chilling. And I just knew when we were making that pack, I was like the biggest thing that would make me drink is Ditty December because I can't imagine being out I front back in a car gun. And someone was like shot, shot, shot. And I look at the Casamigos bottle sitting there and go, thank you. What? So I was on my flight and I flew first class. Blessed, grateful. Shout out to Delta. I flew first class JFK. I was sitting, I called general. I was sitting in the lounge chilling. All of a sudden, I look eyes with a man across the room. A waiter. He was by the bar. Champagne. And he looks at me. I look at him. He looks at me. He's like, oh, a black girl in first class. I know what you need and deserve. He comes over with first juice. I said, okay. Temptation has been moved away. He didn't come without alcohol. He came with first juice. So my god, this is so refreshing. Thank you. I'm still vlogging. The vlog has the proof. Go follow my vlog channel. Do all these diaries. A few seconds later, I look up. Man, yes, sir. I see a glass of sharp cognac. He says, welcome. Here you go. I hope you're well. I see your vlogging. This will be good for the vlog. And then you call me. I see the champagne. I see the juice. I look at myself. I look at my camera. I look at Donald. I said, the first that came to my mind is, oh. Because now I have a decision to make. Because if I did not drink that champagne, then I knew that the entire December, I had the will to not drink at all. So did you drink the champagne? I drank the champagne. When you told me you didn't. I lied. Because I called Donald. And I tell Donald, I say Donald, I just got off her champagne. Here it is. I need to drink it. Donald is like, don't do it. Don't disappoint me. You're stronger than this. Like, keep it up. You know, you don't need to do this. And I was like, you know what? You're right. Call and did. Classic put up. Chugging. Chugging. Immediately. Okay. Did not listen to that man. Not once. And then I said, because I drank that champagne, I'm not going to drink on the plane. So I recognize that I have the willpower. I drank on the plane. And then I landed in Ghana. And my first night, I did not drink at all. Because my mom was there. Not because I didn't want to drink. And after that, I just drank a few times. However, I did not drink a lot. That's the key. So what ended up happening was, like, some nice, I would drink some nice, I wouldn't. I would drink like a glass. I think I, you might like a glass here and there, like a cocktail, but I really did not drink as much as I knew I would have. If I didn't have Donald in the back of my head thinking, look at you. Zero willpower. No discipline. Yeah. The issue with this is that when we meet that path, we meet it together. Yeah. And I went through December. And you didn't drink? I was in front of my family and friends. And everyone drinking. And I looked at them. I fucked up. And I said, how no? No, no. What do you want? I didn't want anything. I need sparked me. I dare you to have done that with me this summer. This year, we're going to be traveling. I dare you. No, but it was supposed to be a year. Yeah. And then after October. Yeah. Yeah. So I dare you between, we're going to be traveling a lot. I dare you to not drink on any of the trips we go on this year. I won't drink. You won't. I know I'm pretty proud of you. I have zero willpower. At this point, call me an alcoholic. Because the entire time. I'm like, wow. I can't believe Sophie's doing all this. And she's not drinking. No. The next call was there. And you said, oh, I'm just been taking Red Bull. No, no. Those entire days I was. Okay. I wasn't intentionally not trying not to drink. If that makes sense. Because I was like, I don't want to put pressure on myself. So sometimes I'm like, I don't feel like drinking. I wouldn't drink. I'm just going to wake up the next morning. So if I spent three weeks in a car. I drank three out of like four days out of the three weeks. Okay. Yeah. Like I would be at the club and I would only order Red Bull. Because I wanted to like make sure I didn't have a problem in my head. So like, I already fucked up with the champagne. Let me see if I can do it. And I actually did it. And then there were nights where like I had a game night in a car that we're going to talk about. That I like took shots and everything. And even like my friend was like, oh, you actually like. You're not drinking the entire bottle. I don't like, no, I seem to make things a bit bigger that you guys need to understand. I'm not drinking full bottles of tequila. Just revives. So yeah. So I broke my virginity. You guys I'm so sorry. If you're on the sobriety journey with me. I'm not. I'm not your role model. I don't listen to me. I feel woefully. Yeah. That's all I can say about that. So I broke that patch. General. I'm so sorry. But besides that, December was great. So tell us. What? I need to know. Yeah. Your mom came. My mom came with me to Ghana. If y'all don't know, I've had a very fraught relationship with my mom. And I think we're going to talk about that in the episode about like motherhood and growing up with a single mom. Was this something I really want to talk about? I wanted to do a trip with my mom because I've never done that before. Like I've never traveled anywhere with my mom. Like she's comes to visit me in America. But honestly, maybe we've spent since I moved to America five days together. And maybe four days max. Like we'd never spent time together. And before they're there, she spends most of her time praying and just not talking. We don't do a lot of like, justing and experiencing. Like we tend to just sort of like exist around each other because we never want to say the wrong thing because our relationship is so delicate. And when I was thinking of going to Ghana for December, I was like, I want to see my mom and I have it. And I know Nigeria to Ghana is like 45 minute flight. And I didn't want to go to Nigeria because it just felt like I would go to Nigeria at different time. And what would be fun is if I could fly her out to me and have her experience at Ghana. Like I was experiencing it. My mom had never been to Ghana. So it was fun because I was like, you know what? Let me actually invite her and see how she enjoyed it. She had the best time. You guys like she did not want to leave. Like we end up going on like adventures together. It's all going to be on my vlog. But it felt so special to have the experience with my mom. I was able to introduce her to like my life. Like she was able to talk to me some more. Like she was asking about Donald. She was asking about the podcast. She was asking me about like life adventures. I got to know her like she's scared of heights. I didn't know she was scared of heights. Like I just realized my mom was actually scared of heights. My mom is a kind of person who like wants to learn. And she's 65. So for me it was crazy to see her be a kid. Like we went to a brewery Botanical Gardens in Ghana. And she just would ask so many questions. And she wanted to take photos and videos of me. She wanted me to take pictures of her. And she was doing TikToks with me. And it was such a special moment with her. That I don't think I'll ever take for granted. Like we'll go out to dinners together. And we'll get dressed up. And we went to a fashion show together. Like it was special. Like I genuinely enjoyed every single moment of it. And I would never take that for granted. Like I want I want to take her in a cruise with me. I want to take her in a brand trip. Like I wonder how she's going to do. And it was special. I liked it. I'm glad I did that for us. And then when she left it really felt like oh I was losing. Like my mom at that point. Like I felt like I wanted her to stay through the entire thing. But I also knew that like the things I wanted to do in Ghana were like I bit raunchy. And when she was around I was able to be like a big wholesome. And then she left and I was like yeah rock on. Shot, shot, twerk, twerk. Club, club, obelette, obelette. Yeah. obelette is crazy. That was pretty much it. That was pretty much it for me. Yeah. How did my mom there was fun? I liked it. And then after she left the party kind of started. Yeah and I feel like a lot of people keep asking me why I went to Ghana and on Nigeria. And I think it was because generally, generally you guys, I'm in love with Ghana. Like I am obsessed with that country in ways that like I don't know how to explain it. Like I sort of like in love with the people there and a person there. It just feels like it felt so, let's say this. So I'm Nigerian. I see like every podcast. But Lagos, Nigeria is typically where everybody does desi december. And Lagos is literally what I call like somewhere with like that runs on crack cocaine. Like Lagos is all the time. Like Lagos is not peace of mind. Lagos is fire. It's energy. It's life. It's love. It's music. It's chaos. Like I described Lagos as chaos. And I described Ghana as excitement. Ghana for me is like a structured level of fun that I don't think Lagos has. Right? Like the traffic is so different. Like the people, the electricity, the calm. Like it feels Ghana was a relaxed vacation that I know Lagos isn't. Like I just knew that going in. Like I landed in Ghana and the AC of the airport greeted me. That was all I needed to know. You know, like I landed in Ghana. I, the AC of the airport was blasting. Right? We walk in. The people were smiling. Went through immigration. The lines. The floor clean. Went through immigration. Immigration was so kind. Like actually for your love of your car, you didn't have it. You just gave it to them. It was so, it was nothing. It was not crazy at any way. Went through immigration. My friend who picked me up had to pay the parking ticket. And I remember like she went to the parking thing and there was a queue of people just waiting to park, to pay for parking. And I just stood there and I looked around and everybody was just sitting and waiting. And I was like, what are we waiting for? She was like, we're going to be like, I just didn't hear a noise. And I was like, this is different. It wasn't cute. It wasn't cute. Because I know like if a structure like that exists in Nigeria, someone is going to try to make that more chaotic. This should, there needs to be someone who's like, my diamond, if you pay me this right now, I will help you pass the parking. There's someone I've been waiting for. Somebody, someone's in the machine. Pressing the machine for you. Someone said, no, no, come here. No, no, no, you come here. Let me help you push your back. Let me help you. Like, that's it. You know what I mean? There wasn't any of that. We paid the ticket. We go. And that was it. We sit. And I'm like, interesting. Right. How is that like not crazy? And then that happens. We're done. And we move in. We're entering the roads. Yeah. And drivers are crazy. But it wasn't crazy. Yeah. It's like, what's like New York drivers? It's like, oh, yeah, we're trying to move them. I said drivers, yeah. And they're not honking. I guess you were. Yeah. Like, they're not honking at you, yelling. They're just moving. And if you're going to crush your car with your windows rolled on, there's no, like, I don't think I saw someone get down from their car once to crush someone out. Right. Even like, they call them the truck truck, like, their car, like, their buses, the people up. My god, I saw not going to America and fing describe in the s**s, disgusting. Well, like, they don't have KKK. And then they don't have buses. They're pushed. Like, you guys, like, this will be fing honest. This, this, it's calm. And their beaches are well controlled. Like, I talked, I made a tech talk that almost got me canceled and gone. And I said, the Indians are slow. They're like, why would you say slow? They're not. I'm like, I didn't mean that like in a brain thing. I mean that in like a way of life. Like, why is slow? If you go on the island of Hawaii, like, people are driving, like, they have nowhere to go. They have nothing to do. Like, you can't stretch. Yeah, peace. Like, isn't it peaceful? Because it's crazy. They're mad. They're mad people too. Like, Indians are mad people too. Like, when they want to be mad, they're mad. Right. But like, before you get a gun, a man to react to you, it will take some time. Because I think their first response is just, I can't be bothered with you. Like, I remember I wanted something at the store, the pharmacy, and the waiter is just sitting. I'm like, can I get that? What's going on? Like, and that's not because she's being slow or sluggish like a sloth. It's more like, I have better things to do. I'm getting paid for this anyways. Here you go. I'm taking it my own time. Like, the service when you go to restaurants. It's like, you're drinking lucid there for three hours before they bring your drink to you. Because they're just chilling. But that's not good though. I don't care. I can just let you know. I'm like, you start praising the country. No, I mean this in a non-negative way. Because I promise you they drink a great way. You get it. Yes, but I'm going to be crazy. No, I expect that. Maybe like an hour. And the lady at the pharmacy is like, Boy, it's like in Nigeria, you might get that drink in 20 minutes. But they might be a shitty drink. Yay. And the lady in the pharmacy. So like, you've been, yeah, I'm just telling you that like, generally, it just felt like a vacation. It was fun. And then the parties, the clubs, like, yeah, sometimes the bouncers might be crazy. But there's a certain level of craziness that just didn't exist. Like, one of the days I was there, they were doing a presidential inauguration. And the streets were clear. What do you mean? It's an inauguration happening. Why is there no crack? Y'all, I need fire. I won't. Like, I'm a Nigerian. Like, I'm seeking it. And I didn't find it. And I had to catch myself because I also live in New York. And New York is very go, go, go, go, go, go, go, go. And to not have that was so interesting to me. So I love Ghana. I think I enjoy the experience. I will go back to Ghana. I'm also not saying this as like, don't go to Nigeria because Nigeria is still fun. I just want, I just, if we're going to have a really, really, really honest conversation, it's a different energy to know you're going to Nigeria. Like Nigeria is not for the faint-hearted. And Nigerians. You have to be ready to match that energy. Like, you're not going to Nigeria. I think you're going to be peaceful. You're going to Nigeria to enjoy the chaos. Like, I'm not expecting anything less for chaos if I go home. And I'm ready for it. And I think this year I wasn't ready for the chaos because Nigeria is home. Like, if I'm going home to see my family and my cousins, I'm not going to go when it's not December, when I know that chaos is even more elevated. I think that, for me, was what the vibe was. So yeah, I loved Ghana, man. And I love the people. I met a lot of creators and content creators in Ghana. They're like, the passion and the creative. Because we see a lot of Nigerians. Because again, Nigerians have this power over the entirety. Because we're the giants of Africa. There's a lot of us. There's a lot of us everywhere. We're very allowed people. Am I too loud? Like, yeah, you are. And I love that about you. Because that's what we're supposed to be. Unapologetic. And for me, seeing the Ghanaian creators is like, there's a certain level of class and grace that they just move. And they're just creating with passion and they're just vibing. And it's just different from Nigerian man. And I don't expect this to be the same. Because we're not monolith of people. But I enjoyed it. Yeah, even Nigerians who have a lot of people. And there's a lot of people. And there's a lot of people. So the composition is even crazier. Yeah. Like, the composition to be even being Nigerian is crazy. Yeah, it was fun. I did, like, I went to Afro-Future, which is like formerly Afro-Chella. And then they moved into Afro-Future and it was a culture-beast jam. It was fun, like, pull a beach club from back Ghana where one of my favorite clubs to be at. Mad club was really fun. I'm saying these things, like, you know, anywhere of these places. But like, I just want, if you're going to go to Ghana, like, those are like, La Badi beach was interesting. La Parma, where y'all beach was really nice, like, set up for, like, New Year's. We go to Tema. I did not go to Tema. Cape Coast. I did not go to Cape Coast. Kumasi. I did not go to Kumasi. Where did you go? Carl has said in a car for the most part. I think I went to a brewery for, like, the brewery gardens. I don't know if that's in a car. And I went to Volta, the Volta region for, like, a staycation one day. But I didn't really explore the Cape Coast or do any of, like, the... I'm going to, like, the slave coast to go see, like... I thought you did that with your mom. No, I did the brewery gardens with her. She didn't want to do the slave coast. She thought, like, that was depressing. Yeah. And I feel like, I don't know if it's a good thing to say. I don't want to be reminded of how terrible white people are. I'm sorry, man. And I understand the importance of the story of slavery and seeing it. But I'm not injured. And I've been to Badaguri Slavery. And I've seen it. And if I went there, I don't think it would be to learn from me. I think it would have been, like, click baity for the content. Yeah. And I just didn't want to have that during my vacation. I agree. Like, it's important to learn, especially, like, I think if you're African-American, or if you're impacted, one of the sort of, like, sub-sex, like, being black, who are in the diaspora, who are going home, and you're wanting to experience that. I understand what the journey was from the continent. That's an important story that you need to experience. But I'm from the continent. I know what happened. Yeah. And I don't want to be reminded of that on my vacation. Like, when you see these things. The one thing I was just like, it's the only way you have proximity to it. Yeah. You don't want to just get triggered. I'll be so upset. Yeah. Like, and I know that too. And also, I was drinking a lot. And it's a three-hour journey from a crop. So, like, I wasn't interested in. It's surprising, like, this is surprising me far. Well, they were on the coast for the most part. And these castles, like, they all mean castles on the coast. I don't want to see the chains. I don't want to be reminded of what my ancestors went through on the continent. And my homeland, I just didn't want to do that. So, I didn't go to any of those things. But I know if I do go, it would be because folks are asking me to show that content. No, because I want to do it for my own, like, self. Which is something, like, I was very, like, adamant of this trip. I was like, I want a vacation. This is not a work trip. This is not a content trip. This is Sophie just having fun. That's a December recap. Mm-hmm. What would you give it? Disversion. Over 10. Oh, this was, like, a solid, like, was it 9 out of 10? 9 out of 10. Okay. What? Give us five reasons. So, I was about 10. Um, I made friends. It was peaceful. I was spoils. Like, I got my nails done, y'all. And it was for, like, it was a home service. It was beautiful. My Airbnb was really nice. Is that just two? The food was, the food was fantastic. Okay. The food was delicious. Like, Ghanaian food, Wache, Fufu. I tried Abanku and Light Soup. That's a fool. That's a fool. Yeah. They want that egg in it. The egg apparently is a new thing. Because people keep talking about Ghanaian-like eggs, so they're trying to make it trend somewhere about putting the eggs in it. It's so cool. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. That's weird. Just what you said? Now when that's weird, you know what happens, you know what happens. That's very strange. That's weird, that's weird. But if that, it was really good. No, no, no. What? Why did you put it in your mouth? That's what the friend I was person said to do. That's the thing I shouldn't chew the egg. I should swallow it. Do you win notaway? No Oh, there's no way you swallow it. No, I didn't swallow it. I do chew. Who is it? I... It was like oh I'm mostly in my mouth and I ate it. You should have seen my face. I was very stressed because I don't like eggs I can crack like egg in your mouth and just swallow it and eat the shell. Yes Just you know people like me. I'm not big egg like I like fried eggs scrambled eggs I'm not a whole boiled egg type of girl It wasn't good. I honestly Besides the foo I didn't really and I didn't like engage with eggs a lot like I feel like you always tend to hear guinea's like Actually, you see eggs everywhere. I didn't really see a lot of eggs But I also think and I also realized that I ate in a lot of traditional restaurants like I wasn't Going to like the fancy Fusion places are like the touristy places like I think besides book our restaurant Which is like I think the closest thing to a fancy restaurant that still serves like traditional dishes a lot of times I was eating at like The hole in the wall spots like my favorite is yeah There's a restaurant in a crab balo's restaurant in East Lagoon y'all they make fresh pounded jam there balo's B.A. L.O.S For a piece is good like fresh or crawl like I feel like it might be never my life I asked for it And like they're making a fresh like you can see them pounding in the back. It's like Nigerian food And um, I wanted this place to get watching I forget the malachi Malik and her remember I got to go and watch it And it was like really good to have the food was delicious And I just and there's another place where I go go get me and rice and stew like I just also I had the right plug I had the perfect plug too, so it was just fun like I genuinely felt like I was I was like home because like Nigeria was so close by And I felt like I was it felt like I was home like I had I can't I don't know if you guys can tell But it felt like a vacation. I fed my soul And I was just like I was locked up and happy like I had no complaints whatsoever It's like Nigeria that's been like a little bit because like more people know you there Mm-hmm a lot more demands for your I am famous Okay, you know what I mean like I don't you know what let's talk about it I'm a bad bitch. I still need you to give me two more. I fell in love Okay, so that was fun and um that was fun. Yeah, you felt oh, okay Maybe maybe not okay we could talk about that too because Love is a crazy thing you guys I would say watching creators create was beautiful. Oh my mom. My mom. My mom being a part of my discipline Yeah, I'll say that. That's good. Yeah. Yeah, I'm solid. So what was I saying? Famous yes, y'all because like a lot of Ghanian blogs We're like picking my story up which is interesting to me like I will go out and they will record me And they will post me and it will like trend and I was like oh like because I realized like Here's a thing about leaving I this is crazy that I always bring this up in every episode She's like the idea of being black in America. It's just an interesting concept but someone from not from here It was an immigrant because when you're home The energy is different like the stories are different the story telling the media is just different The wig creators in Nigeria exist in Ghana y'all You're superstar if you're home because everybody there looks like you so there's your The engagement the ideas everything just trust to you in America. You're one of like a million minorities We're fighting for the attention of the majority, right? It feels like how like famous an Alex Earl can be Well like an Alex Cooper with unwell, right? Like a white woman in America can do so well But black woman in America is fighting the idea that she's black and then she has to fight that the attention of like Black men white men Asian men Hispanic Native American white like there's so many layers of people You're having to fight for their attention now. You need to find a common ground to get that new cycle in America That's so really big in Nigeria Because they are you yeah, like you just you're yourself like there's nothing you're besides maybe class or style or like Interest or experience for the most part You're relatable simply by existing as a Nigerian in Nigeria. So if they're over what 200 million Nigerians, right? You have 200 million eyes on you because you're Nigerian automatically and then adding that with the people in the diaspora too And so like the power and the energy there is like in Ghana there I felt like a star. I'm walking people like oh my god. That's the oddity Hello You know me I'm like you're in like you relate to me and you feel like I'm doing something out of the norm because I live in New York And I'm trying my best and I'm living here and I remember I get to New York and I know that people here recognize me too Well, it's different. It's like a Connection here versus they were it's like oh my god like we're here like I don't know to explain it It's just so special. Yeah, like it's so like I want again to over like the black diaspora like recognizes the impact It would look like to have all of us just like pouring to each other Okay, 200 million Nigerians, but it's over 5 billion Africans 10 billion Africans. I don't know what the math is I mean like imagine a world with like Jamaicans, you know like Brazil black Brazilians Afro Latinas like Everyone just sort of sees the black experience because it's not monolithic even harder But still sees that you're a black person. I support. Right. Well, it's hard. It's hard. It's hard Algorithms too, right? Yes, it's a lot of like separation because like if I was in Ghana like my entire algorithm TikTok was a lot of Ghanian content. So it was easy for me to discover people who lived there if I'm here in New York My algorithm is not just can't but where was last time you saw like a Jamaican? I do see a lot of Jamaicans, but it's also because like I listen to like Jamaican music. Right. So like it helps like a whole job at Nicki Minaj and I forget Like actual creators though From Jamaica, um, Tori a Jamaican creator. Maybe she's training. I shouldn't talk about cloud no idea But there's a drama right now with two Jamaican creators that go on my FIP boy was because I was in Ghana Okay, so like you see a lot more black people on the FIP a RIP TikTok generally So that something goes five of my nose in my mouth. Did you see that? So I thought I could dial because I'm like I don't know Doesn't matter I think I see rice. It's never happened. Where did the rice come from? Yeah, y'all Ghana was fun It was interesting to like experience everything And I love every moment of it also like club culture and like just the vibe of it was different You know, I mean like yeah, no cause like the FIP itself is just crazy And I just enjoy every single moment of it. How much money do you spend? How much your Ghana is expensive? Really? Oh my god I paid four thousand dollars for the ABMBI stayed in for the three weeks. I was there nowhere Yeah, and I spent you know, I saw something It was a theme of like that's a December and 2024. No 2023. Mm-hmm. And the buddhist wasn't I interesting stuff Mm-hmm In Ikoui and Victoria. Yeah, it was like 10 million dollars. Yeah, that dollar is not an IRA. Yeah, it dollars For four thousand dollars for a month. Yes for three weeks for three weeks because it was like 300 I don't know my math, but it was for I know my I know I expense four thousand dollars What is that money like? Because like a thousand seed is so that how much I say you're buying like a meal What are you spending how many seed is I think every day? I would order something maybe like a thousand seed is a day Okay, well, that's like if I'm ordering for two people because most of the time I was ordering for two people So maybe four hundred seed is and maybe a drink would be like a hundred and fifty seed is but that is typically like 38 dollars so how much do you spend in on total in total honestly like eight thousand dollars. Okay For three weeks because I paid 1500 CDs a day for a driver for those three weeks to because I had a driver a personal driver with me How much is that I don't know how much that is $100 yes, so that's a hundred dollars for three weeks essentially or 15 hours was for the three weeks for one day per day So 100 dollars a day for a car. Yeah, so kind of like 2000. Yeah, so 2500 because I'll tip him to He would eat stuff like that. Yeah, so that's already for so that was his car already Yeah, his car. That's good. So that wasn't bad And then just like little things like food, buying clothes, gifting friends like yeah, it was kind of was expensive Like I'll go out to eat and I'm like looking at my car and I'm like hmm It feels like I'm spending a lot of money and I don't think I would have spent that much if I was I love what's in Nigeria. Yeah, but also here's the thing I'm realizing too because someone a friend of mine made a comment about how I'm dumb because I'm spending my money I was I was wondering about this and he was like yeah, they're like, I don't know you guys I think I'm like dumb for this. I don't think I'm dumb. I feel like it's just a different substance of being a woman Yeah, if you break that down the fuck they're like you have to ask yourself Because here's the thing I know that if I wanted that expense covered it could have been covered So let's talk about this a little bit because the African culture tends to be like the man Is a provider in the context, right? And I remember there's a lot of times where like friends would ask me like Oh, like who's paying for your car or how'd you get your car or who's paying for your apartment? I'm like I am like no one puts my bills for me. I do it myself and that's not because of You know, I mean it's just generally because I just never I take care of myself and I like my comfort and I realized like Traditionally like back home a lot of like people their lives are taken care of like even at the club But the drinks were by and like people just like men just want to take care of you because you're a woman It's so interesting dynamic. Why I feel like Those this is not a statement majority of those women don't have money. Why I know some that do and so just like expect In surgery expect shifts. I think shiver is different from like like you're not paying like you're going somewhere And you want to man to pay for everything. Yeah, and like it's not one man Because shiver is like oh, you're talking to somebody. Yeah, it's multiple guys I realized that in the African context the men oftentimes race to be providers and the women are race to be caretakers, right? So what that happens is a joy of the time financial access or prosperity comes easier to a man than a woman in that context So women are no longer have it don't have it as they don't have half of women don't have that financial Access, right? And especially if you're an attractive woman in this context, too You're always facing obstacles of these men no one seems to get anywhere like if you have this idea for business You're fighting like if you're gonna give someone a proposal. Oh, can you sleep with me? Well, what do you work? I would like what would I get for me to get this? So already women are fighting to the nail to get anywhere to be successful I hate the idea that this is how they have to sort of live for these things to occur every single time right and In this context to like I see a lot of young girls who are just waiting for someone to take care of them And it was huge Huge in Ghana, and I know it's huge in Nigeria too, and I just it frustrates me But I also understand so I don't know how that's gonna change It's also like I think it's also part of like this selection process, right? Yeah, because And this is for the ones who are like monogamous Yeah, cuz like how do you know if like a man really likes to be like behind your stuff and taking care of him? True, I would also hope that it will be through emotional And conversations it will be through like support between like in a dish life, right? Yeah, that's true You look pretty looking at all the efforts. Yeah, yeah, so I was thinking about cuz I'm like If someone approaches me right now, what makes me think they're serious about me? I don't think my first thing is financial. It can't be for me, right? It's impossible. Right? How would someone get me if they wanted me? They have to like you. They have to see that they like But like they just have to be clear. Yeah, but like how would I feel like I'm interested in them back Like what kind of man do to me or woman do to me right now that makes me like it's just like But then borderline just like I like you. Yeah, that's it, right? I think he's like is Honestly, you're right. You're right because I know there was one person who would hit on me And it was this you just very direct of like I like you. I want to go on a date with you And I was like oh, no one ever does that because they're very intimidated So like yes to that But then like yeah, that's interesting It's the baseline. Yeah, because a lot of people are there's so much in the country like that, right? Yeah, how many girls have run out from this a lot like on actual like dinner days a lot Like that's what the boys do That's what the girl is do like you just I go out on dates like all the restaurants are just couples And like I like to play in the game in the restaurant where I'm like I wonder how long they've been talking I don't know if it's the one I stand they want like also people do like you because you want to win and die For them to give you their attention, right? I think the currency from women especially is just the attention for you to get my attention What are you doing for me to get it, right? And that's where the let's let me take you out Have you know ahead let me take you out? Let me go to spa day. I want to buy shoe take me shopping doing this doing that So show give me the effort to show like you're interested And let me not decide if I'm going to like pay any attention to you or not So three weeks in Ghana. Yeah, how many days did you go on one dead ass one? That's so true. I don't know. I feel about that now when I say that What and that was a day I even asked for the actual but I also think like I can't I couldn't have gone on a date I couldn't have gone on a date because I couldn't have gone on a date because you said that three times Because there's all there wasn't a time to and we're just not date people Do you understand what you just said next question No, I'm trying to break down what you just said because like Yeah, we say we're not doing it literally sweating already The society of Ganyans no no like for me We did Hey We did other things that were in like dates If that makes sense, we hung out like we hung out like we're very we're together the entire time But like we didn't go in dates like we want one day outside because like Being in public with me like it's very weird like I don't want to like think anything different And I'm very I'm a very private person too. So like I was very just careful about like where I was going out with because I was also having fun You know what I mean and I met different people so it was really cool So about the girls that people you around you understand all Say that again Do you think you're wrong? To stand out to you anything interesting. No, I don't want to go with a bunch of people like Thank you She needs any celebrity. Um, I did. I did. Uh, Mr. Easy thing. Mr. Easy was fun. Mr. Easy was fun I went to I hung out with a lot of people from DWP Academy in Ghana And that's like a dance academy in Ghana. Um, there's like a bunch of creators who dance I hung out with easy for a daddy rave. I'll go to my friend Abba Asante She's like the I'm not your toy. I'm not on tiktok. Madam Joyce is my little sister little sister is crazy But she's my sister Um, she had a lot of drama this doesn't say but you'll need to go listen to her podcast episode Because I know her teeth like hotter than mine like she was in the mix like Joyce is in the mix living her best life I hung out with Joyce for a couple of nights like I was I was like outside where I feel like I don't know about you guys, but I'm I don't know. I just be chilling. I I I spent a lot of my time like indoors like Just what I wasn't chilling. I take that back It's a little cool to happen here. Yeah, is that ending my face? No I had fun. I had fun. You know what? I would say that I'm leaving all of this in here because I just need you all to see me flondering a bit I don't know. Tell me ask me a question. You're not asking me anything. What did you ask me? I said did you go on any dates? Yes Did you go on dates with a pro a friend a friend a friend a friend a friend. Tell us about your friend. describe your friend to us Are you crazy? I got you actually fully. Just describe. Just describe. What does your friend like to do? Does your friend have any hobbies? My friend is a foodie. Just a food. Yeah, just a foodie. I think what kind of things does your friend like to eat? Oh Well, I was going with that. What keeping this in just so you know That's how it is the trailer. I don't know f* all bro. What are you trying to ask me don't order? If that's not it because I don't even know who this friend is you are so annoying. Let me say this. Okay. I'm happy Hmm. Can I leave it at that? Yeah, I think I I'm very happy. I I loved being in Ghana, I loved meeting people, and meeting new people. I definitely found myself in Ghana, and I'm just happy, like I'm very content. I just heard something. What did you hear? You're hard to beat. You're so fing annoying. You're the fing dumb fing sweet off. Yeah, because you know, like, I've did a bunch of Ganyan people before, and that was fun. And I'm just like, it was fun. It was Ghana was fun. I'm still very much like, not speaking about my relationship status in any way, shape or form. As you should. As I should, but like, it was a fun time. I will say that. And I will say, I just, I left just his friends. Yeah, I feel like there's still nothing going on with anyone. Yeah. Okay, can we please end this conversation now? I mean, something not as happy to talk. That was a terrible transition. It's a bitter transition. That was a terrible transition. Because, like, didn't tell me anything that I wanted to know. Okay, okay, let me talk. Let me talk. Tell me. Ask me a good question. Are you crazy? Are you mad man? You're not going to answer that. I don't know that. Yes, you can. Well, I don't talk about my real love life. You know that. So you left as a friend? Yes. How do you feel about that? Sad. Why sad? Because, like, they're very much not interested in their relationship with me. Ooh. So there's something. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Why? Because I'm not single. Ah. So there's two people. What is your problem today? No. No. No. Generally, do you want to fing fight me? I didn't want them two together. Okay. Right. All right, three. What happened to four and five? So there's four people? There's five people, maybe. E. What? I can see you guys in the comments, right? It's like, you're the same place with me. I'm here at a time to understand. And, like, you're keeping too many things close to your chest right now. Yes. What's on the whole point? We love. Too long. Too long. Too long. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Yes. And... So are you living everything in 2024? No. Ah. So you're going to continue? Yeah. You guys feel like I'm in the space where, like, I am so content with where I am. And I'm just exploring and having fun. What hobby is... Do you like... What are you looking for? In a person? Yeah. Oh, that's a good question. And someone driven, someone like sexy, someone intentional, someone that would make me happy. And you guys, my goal for 2024 was someone that would bring out the feminine energy in me. And I found that in Ghana. Like, I found a person who, like, brings that out of me. Like, I am such a... Like, let's talk about it. Okay. Being in, like, a thing allegedly... With someone who makes you feel like you're such a girl. I've never had that before in you. Shut up. Let me give you guys an example. So I've traveled with Taya Inana and Donald before. Taya Inana is an incredible YouTuber. And he's a creator. Taya, I love you so much. But these men are children. People with... Let me explain. Let me explain what I mean by that. Like, I have a lot of masculine energy, right? Don't know what I'm doing from you. Like, I'm always, like, I'm logical, too, right? And I'm always, like, prepared. So when we're not children, I'm like, oh, this is our gay. It says, go, but hey, let's go do this. Like, what are we going to be doing this? Like, I'm always the planner, and I'm planning ahead. So a lot of times, I can never fully, like, let go, and allow other people to lead and take care of me. That's a fact. I tend to just always be the one. And the friends who know me just let me do it. Like, they don't have this kind of person who, like, he just lets me do my thing, right? And because we don't have that emotional sexual relationship, I don't know why I keep saying that like that. So, like, for us, like, it's different. Because like, our dynamic is very different, right? Like, it's very, like, we don't know, like, it's very, I don't know, like, we work together. So it's like a different dynamic. We're like, I'm not a girl with you. Like, I'm logical, I'm direct. I'm like, I'm that way. The first person I need to be able to do it. The first person I need to be able to do it. But it's not going to run itself. Yeah, I guess he's not chivalrous. He's not taking care of me in any way, shape or form. He's not paying my bills. He's not buying me anything. He's not taking me out to dinner. He's not buying me dinner. He's actually doing nothing for me. Yeah. Damn, I'm done. Let's go through. What have you done? Okay, strip it to this person that you're talking about. They do everything for me. Tell me the things they do for you. They're paying your bills. Yeah. Honestly, it was some of it. Like, when I want, like, it was a very like, 100% 100% energy. So like, if I, like, we need something, they're just doing it. And vice versa. Like, there was one time the car. I needed cash to pay like the car for three weeks. And it was like, oh, I got a baby go inside. Like, it's that kind of energy. Like, it's not. I'm not thinking I have to do this. Like, my brain is off. Like, I'm hungry. It's. I'm hungry. I'm. Food is on this way. Like, the driver's coming to pick you up. This is happening. It's very, like, I'm very well taken care of in, like, it's just fun. Yeah. Yeah. No, it's something because you're always someone that cares about you. I've been with people who cared about me, and I just still didn't feel that way. I don't know. And it's not that I've been told for the longest time that I never let people take care of me. And one of my best friends will always tell me that that was because they didn't know how to take care of me. Or because they didn't just know, honestly, it was just because they didn't know how to take care of me. And this person reminds me of that. Like, oh, it actually just was just nobody knew how to take care of me. I'm really now entertaining someone who knows exactly how to take care of me. What's it tell me? And I'm sitting in my, like, I'm sitting chilling. I am so happy. I'm vibing. Yeah. I was fine. Yeah. Cause I feel like that was it. I was done. Like, I want someone. What are we talking about this? How did this come up? What is going on? I said something. I didn't know what I said. And you're like, that's a good question. I'm telling you. I'm telling you. I'm going to be quiet now. Okay. You want someone? If I wasn't single. No. I just put it. I can't track. Amongst the five people that you're with. No, I'm just with two people. Okay. Amongst the two people. Right? That exists in your love or sphere. What do you, cause you say it's too searching. Right? Who's the person? Cause you're not, you're describing this before or not. Okay. I think I'm discarding one person. Okay. That's a good, okay. Okay. I like this. Let's continue any conversations right now. But my love life. Talking about the fact that I'm with two people. And I'll be very, I'll respond very direct. Okay. And as private as I can go without being. I want to be private. I don't want people in my business. You know this. Right. Cause of so many things. So like I still want to be able to share the things I want in a relationship without having people question too much. But I think my love life and love itself is so important to me. And this entire trip in Ghana was me feeling very loved. I don't want to, I don't want to not share it on the podcast cause I like talking to you guys. So, okay. Continue. I like this. I like what this is going. I feel a lot more comfortable. So two people. Okay. And you're discarding one person. You don't want any to, you don't add in anymore. It's done. Well. Okay. Here's the thing. With one of the people, you don't want like you have everything you could possibly need in life. I am very content with where I am in life. I have companionship. I have my vibrator. I am not lacking in anything. Like I have love. I have life. I have family. I have everything. So for me, having a love life has always been like an addition. It's really like an important thing. For the first time ever, I put love in my vision board this year. Like I actually was very intentional about wanting love in my life. Specifically a specific type of love in my life. And the two people I'm with are giving me that love that I want right now. So Ghana was a very eye-opening experience for me cause I realized, oh. They're still not giving me what I want. How do I navigate this? And prior to Ghana too, I've been navigating what it is. I actually want love in my life. And I know in 2025, I want to be put up. I want to Valentine's. You know what I mean? I want to be courted. I want to be spoiled. I don't have that in my life right now. You know what I mean? I have never, like, because I have everything, I'm so grateful that I have everything. It's very hard to be with someone. Like me. And so I'm having to navigate what that what that looks like essentially. And so throughout Ghana, I was definitely, like, loved up. But I don't think I was like courted or like, I was in dating. I was in dating. I was just, like, loved up. And I'm like, I still want to enjoy the ideas of dating. Yeah. Does that make sense? What I wanted with one of those two people for sure. Absolutely. But also see what the future holds. Yeah. I did me like, I definitely want, I want, I want something. Right? I'm in that headspace now. I just don't know if they want the same thing as me. Or if they're just like nervous about dating someone like me. Right? At all. I don't know if that's like a thing that they're going to have to figure out. I'm not sure. But I love them. So speaking of things that you love. TikTok. F you guys. TikTok is game banned. Well, we don't know today or today's day. January 9th, right? 10th. January 10th. You all are going to get the episode. I don't know if the Supreme Court would have done like the thing where they tell us whether they're not going to save the TikTok app. What we know so far. But the next nine days we're going to know. And I don't know what you all know now when the episode is coming out. But from where we are right now. Just to make sure it's heard the arguments today. You're leaning towards an extension because Trump wants to be the one to save TikTok. I think he just wants the power to say he saved TikTok. I know TikTok is not selling. I get because I use it to arguments today. Yeah, they're not selling. I don't even think the extension might come. From what I heard today. Yeah. I don't think so. America isn't smart. Like the American government itself is run by old white men. I don't think they're smart enough to understand the importance of an app like TikTok. And I think it's a terrible mistake for them to ban TikTok. On both sides. On both sides. Right. Who's both sides? Democrat. That's why I said American government because this is like a mix like everybody. Ideally, I want Trump to save it. I'm curious to see like how he would save it if he does want to save it. And I just I don't understand their critique of the app. Because TikTok is the algorithm is such a special algorithm and that's why it works the way it works. I'm just curious. I'm very sad if it goes away like it really doesn't do anything for me. Transparenly like I don't make money for TikTok. I literally just post TikToks for fun. I've always been an Instagram girl on YouTube girl. I love TikTok though because I love the FYP and I love like how fun how open it is. So I'm sad about that. But I tell all creators like the best thing for you to do is just diversify. Like never let one app be like how you like make your entire living. Because you never know what's going to happen. Like you have millions of and you don't have the same kind of reach of people. Or anywhere else. The algorithm is so special too. I think that's the issue right out for the best. If they ban the app it will be sad because I want to miss having TikTok. I thought about it this morning and I was crazy. TikTok goes away like a part of my day. Because even like Twitter is an interesting like ex now. I remember like the LA fires are happening and I went on Twitter and I couldn't find it. And I remember a time where like the Twitter feed. Twitter was like where you go for news. And now you can't even see that because it's so clogged. Like so many things shape the way we take information on these apps. And like TikTok selling to someone else would shape the algorithm and it has to. And they wouldn't do it. They wouldn't do it. They did it. And when Mark came out and said what he said about Facebook. Of course he said. He was like they're going to take off like fact checking content moderation. Why? Pretty much like trying to make it like they want to he said they want to make Facebook more like ex. And you know like him and like some other the other social media guys. Like they did a million dollars each to Trump's inauguration thing. Yeah. So like the whole thing feels targeted. Also I just want people to understand that at the end of the day money is power. Yeah. And no matter what we think about policy and everything like that. Money is always going to be power within any administration. The reason Trump is in power right now is because he is a rich man. And people were hungry and we didn't want to hear from any politician. And he just wanted to say they want to hear someone who tell them I'm going to make you money. Even though he's not going to make any more of the people who he voted for him money. Because he's a criminal. And he's not thinking about people like someone in Alabama who needs a job today. To a sentence. Yeah. But he's not going to serve the sentence. Yeah. America's an interesting place. I want to go back to Ghana. I do. Yeah. So I'm so sad about the ticker band. I don't know what I don't know what's going to happen. I think like a lot of careers are like what needs to go on LinkedIn find jobs and start trending like maybe another apple come out. Or maybe there's going to be another version of tick talk that comes out. I don't think it will be the same. Because like we all like saw a vine and then tick talk is as close as we're going to get to vine. Because it's a culture shift right like you never know what the next app is. I will say people need to be on Snapchat. Like I feel like Snapchat is the closest thing to tick talk for me. And I like and Snapchat has a lot more of a wider audience. But I don't think the interface is the same though, which is what's interesting. But I love Snapchat. So I'm still going to be I'm going to be. I think also think about it like this, right? Like more opportunities. If tick talk goes away. Can I get chapstick? If tick talk goes away. You're going to have a lot more opportunities on other apps. Yeah. For sure. There's still a lot of opportunities to go to Facebook and Instagram. That's what we think. But not me for the people who want like obviously it's not going to be easy, right? And I think about it for a vine. There's so many creators on vine who just disappeared. But do you think but that's because they never like know they tried because there's not the same. Exactly. And people forget that there's a certain level of ease that comes to your content creation and certain apps that people just continue to do. Right. And like Instagram is a whole different beast. And to start a fresh it's grow again. It's so hard. And people always talk about over like our fans love us. They're going to transition. That's not true. I kind of imagine somebody saying, oh, they want to. Sorry. They want to go and take it for someone. They're like, the sentiment exists. But it's always going to be a shit. So I'm like, my ex and I won't basket ever. Like if you follow my any of my channels, you know that. If you listen to the podcast, you're getting one type of content. If you go my tick talk, it's one type of content. If you go my Instagram. And that definitely makes my growth a lot slower. It doesn't make me the most stable consistent creator. Because I'm doing 50 million things at the same time. Boy, it helps me get to where I want to go. Like if Instagram went away today, I can go on TikTok tomorrow and still have a following. If TikTok goes away today, I can go on Instagram and still have a following. If YouTube goes away today, I can go on Instagram. I'm able to transition to different. I think I can't go to Facebook. So I'm going to even try it. Like even Pinterest I can go on. Because I understand that this is not simply just a way of making money. This is a way of life for me now. Like this is where my entire goals and dreams exist. So I need to make sure I have all my hands and all the baskets I can do to keep myself balanced. I'm also like very much like a control freak. I'm so snapchat too. Oh my god snapchat. I love snapchat you guys. I'm going to try to put like my little code here. But yeah, shout out to TikTok. But yeah, I think that's pretty much it. Like I'm so sad about TikTok when I'm also like, we'll see what happens. I hope they extend it. Just so Trump can do whatever. Just for the plot too. Like let's see what Trump has. We'll see the idea he wants. So I know he sends like amicus brief to this court today about it. Yeah. We'll see. Amicus brief. Like a little like no under the door. Like suggested. Yeah, like a like hey, we're like chilling here. But like just in case like don't make a decision. Do it this way. Something's coming up. Like you do that to like tell a court. Like we have something coming just like here. Read this to you. Yeah. I wanted us to try any segment. If you listen to this. I love you so much. We're also trying to do different things in terms of 25 for the podcast. So we land on like exactly how the segments go. For a lot of times it's going to be me and Donald yapping because we love to yap. But also we want to try to introduce segments to introduce you guys to us. But also to like actually get some more info. So if you have any like facts or like stories you would like to be featured. Share in the comments or we have a voicemail on our website. Am I too loud dot com. The link would be in our bio's in the description. Anywhere you want to find it. Just click on it. You can leave a voicemail. If you have like a dilemma. If you have like a question. Like we're trying to basically do like odd facts or odd questions like you want answered. And we're just going to like talk about it. Like I want to start to like interact with the audience more. And you all have some crazy questions. I know sometimes when I play the voicemail on the episodes. I want to hear your voice too. I'm really excited about that. So let us know. Add us and do all that fun stuff. So Donald has fun facts for us to start. And we're going to take turns answering that. What's the first thing fun facts about you people don't know. All right. Let's do it. Three fun facts about me and Donald. Donald goes first. It's my podcast. I'm very good at table tennis. No, you're not. I said, yeah. No, you're not. What do you mean? You're good at table tennis. I have six good medals. You're a lion. But my second is going to the housework. Don't know. That doesn't count. It's a Olympics. Do you make a bet? That was. I didn't say I was good at it. How far are we going to be? The best table tennis player. Okay. We're going to do this one day. You're very good at table tennis. It's crazy. No, I am. Because you're terrible at a number of tennis. That's not true. You like me, tennis or me? Yes, I am. What are you talking about? Yes, I do. I'm not. Are you sure you play tennis? Yes, you're not the best. You think you are. No, no, no, no. I'm not. It's like I'm terrible at tennis. Okay. I'm average. What's the other thing called? Paddle pickle? Pickle ball. I've never played pickle. I'm extremely good at table tennis. Okay. We're going to see. We went for a trip. Yeah. And I played pickle ball and it took my photo. Fun fact, you guys don't know about me. My right toe is broken. Yeah. It's always glued together every time I get my pedicure. Can we get my feet? Yeah. My right toe is broken. I'm not doing that. I'm not doing that. I'm not doing that. I'm never going to show my feet. Why are you doing this? Whoa. Next fact. Who? I love musicals. You do love musicals. That's a good fact. I fart at least 12 times a day. You think that's 24? I fart 24 times a day. I said at least. And they're stinky too. And they're so sneaky. Like I just do this. This comes out. I'm telling you at least seven times. I'm telling you. It's sad thing is like I have a teddy on so he just Soaks in the fat fart and it just comes straight up to me It's very bad. But I have perfume on so he helps. I put a drop of butter in my cereal Why? Well, you know, I just I love the taste. Okay, like melted butter though. Fun fact about me last one. I have 13 siblings 11 siblings. Everybody knows that. 11 siblings? 11 siblings. Yeah, but they still siblings. but they still siblings, they're still people too. No. That's a good fact. Okay, cool, cool, cool. So, let's do odd facts. Okay, what does that mean? Just like we're just sharing odd facts to people. No, I'm just telling you. I'll tell you an odd facts. Okay. And you tell me what you think. Okay. Okay, first one. You can't hum while holding your nose close. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh. Yes, you can. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. That's a good one. Okay. Identical twins don't have the same fingerprints. I knew that fact. Okay. Yeah. I have identical twins in my family. I don't know why I lied. Well, that makes no sense. Yeah. They don't. Is it a lie? No, it's just true. Why would they have the same fingerprints? Because they are identical. They don't copy your face. They don't copy your face. No. Identical. Ident. Identical. Identical. Identical. Identical. Like, basically, you can see that. It doesn't mean like that. Like, you're not going to have the same fingerprints nails and shaping stuff. Maybe they're one of their choices covered the other one is not. So they are identical. Yes, they are. Yes, they are. Because their faces are different. Usually it's about the face. And usually there's like something that will be off of them. Maybe one thing is like bent a little bit. Okay. It's impossible to lick. I don't know. It's impossible. It's impossible. It's impossible to lick the elbow. Hmm. Hmm. Hmm. I can't. That's true. Okay. I can't do that. Next one. Okay. Next segment. Okay. Our questions. Wasn't most ridiculous thing you've ever Googled. How's the gift head? Hmm. Hmm. Hmm. I'm having a full-on question. I'm having a full-on question. What did you find? What did you find? Tell us. Let's go ahead. So here's the thing. Okay. Okay. Let's do the thing. I am famously known to like speak without thinking and then regret it. And once even worse about this is that I also have the edit button. So we can definitely take that out of the podcast. But then I also want content. So I'm going to keep this in the podcast and continue talking. Like I have no own training because I'm too loud as the * podcast. Why did Google has to give good head? Because here's the thing. I was scrolling on TikTok the other day. And I just realized I don't think I'm the best at giving head. A certain type of head. I thought I'm good at one. The suction. But when I'm more of the licking. Hey. Hey. Hey. Hey. Hey. Hey. Yeah. I see the group flying all around. I see the group. Oh my days. So I wanted to make sure I was doing it right. Yeah. So I learned and I googled it. And they said like you should just always have a flat tongue. Which I'm usually used to like the swirl. And I'm like learning about being flat. So it was really interesting. Next question please. I don't know. Was this recent? Oh. Next one. I don't know. What's the one fact about me? You think people need to know. But I wouldn't want them to. You had an answer to this. I have multiple. I'm trying to select which one. Okay. You love papaya. I don't know. What's papaya? I was going to get that. It's not you now. But no, I feel like I want people to know that though. I don't know what you're talking about. Okay. I love the fruit. I love the fruit. Yeah. This is delicious fruit. Without the seeds though. Sometimes you get a little crunch. Okay. If your life were a reality show. What would it be called? What would the main drama be? If my genuine, like a genuinely, genuinely. If my life was a reality show. Genuinely. What would it be? Genuinely. I would feel like it would be called like living oddly or like odd living or something like that. Maybe I'm still boring. Never mind. Let me check that out. So trash. I am not talented. I would call it the oddity diaries. Okay. Let me just be very like cute about it. I would call it the oddity diaries. And the main drama would definitely be how genuinely mean I am. Because I feel like people don't realize how mean I am. Like I'm very honest and like I'm mean to people in my life. I'm very blunt at the same time. I'm very manipulative too. I'm also very emotionally like overwhelming. I think it would be that a lot of drama with my friends. Like I'm very toxic. So you're a cancer. I'm a cancer. So it would be like following the life of a cancer. Like a cancer who has a chalio rising. Please. So I know what I'm doing and I'm doing it directly to you. I'm also really nice and sweet. I'm just a baby. All right. Donald, if your personality was a drink, what would it be and why? Sparkling water. Sparkling water, why? This is clean and nice. Okay, you are so boring. Your life is boring. Oh, that's not boring. You are a boring man. Just face it up and this is ugly, man. Okay, first of all. Breathe. If my personality was a drink, you know what I'm going to say. What? Tequila! Because tequila is spicy. Tequila is life. Tequila is literally alcohol that's ticking its time to be clear. It's beautiful. It's strong. It's vibrant. It gets you happy. It's like water is water that excites you. If you taste this sparkling water, it's disgusting. Just close your throat. Tequila just goes right in. I don't know. I don't like sparkling water. It's been known. Tequila is where it's at. Because I also feel like I'm a tequila girl. Like I always drink tequila. Again, it's so sad. That was a great pass to not drink alcohol. Look at me now. Next one. Leave me alone. Don't know. But yeah, tequila for sure. I'm a tequila girl. That's how you know we're so different. Because my choice is tequila and indone. It's like, sparkling water. I love you so much. I'm very proud of my Sparkling water. I'm very proud of my tequila. Thank you guys so much for listening to the podcast. It's Sophie, aka The Oddity, and Donald. I'm going on a brand trip. I'm going to trip in with Tarte. We're going to Necker Island in the British Virgin Island. It's like a private island. It's going to be... What do you need? You're going on a brand trip. Yeah. You're going to the islands. Yeah. Called what? The British Virgin Islands, BVI. And what's new at island? Necker. It's Necker Island. Okay. Let me alone, Donald. Necker Island. And here's why I know so far about the trip. First of all, you guys, I am going with my friend Sonia. So I am a plus one. I'm a plus one on the trip. And there was so much drama around that, too. Because I wasn't invited. And like, let's talk about it real quick, you guys. So here's the thing. Hey, God, I should shut up. I'm going to talk about that. Necker. I'm going to keep that to the next time. Yes, please. I was like, what do they know? They know the relationship between you and I. Yay. Okay. We're going to keep that to the next time. Because there's a lot of T.C.B spilled. But I have a brand trip. I'm going to be spilling all the tea on the trip and retard on the next episode of the podcast. Don't worry. Forget. I'm not drunk. I swear. Remember to share your own facts. You all don't forget to share your own own facts and stories. You would like to be featured. Please share in the comments. Description. Leave a voicemail on mytoolah.com, our website, or the link will be in our description. Thank you, guys, for listening. That's the December of the movie. I'm back home. I had a trip in the entire episode. We have a lot more stuff in store. But if you guys have ideas for a podcast episode, let us know in the comments. We are a fing mess. I love you guys so much. This is as real as it's going to always get. Okay. Thank you so much for watching. Hopefully one day I win the Nobel Peace Prize. I don't know what you're talking about. I love you guys. Say bye, Donalds. Peace. Why would you say peace like a millennium? Like a millennium? Peace. I love you guys. Bye. I need to f***ing hit, bro.